f.o. -- friendship over

pros and cons of having a guy as a best friend

pros:

• you can have a guy's perspective in certain things, like what they would do in certain situations,or what their thoughts are about certain things,etc.
  
• there's like a "big brother" image that you can turn to. *if you're looking for one*
  
• you get to have an instant protector. ha ha
  
• there's a shoulder you can cry on when you're down and blue. *well, i know there are gal friends, but it's different with guys. there's a kind of security you can feel,at least i think so.*
  

cons:

• actually,there's only a teeny tiny thing you should be aware of -- the possibility of falling in love with your best friend
  

pros and cons of moving the friendship to the next level


pros:

• you know each other really well that you're tolerant about the other's idiosyncrasies that other people would surely misunderstand.
  
• the understanding is incomparable because when you accepted the other as your friend,you accepted everything about the person.
  
• there are certain things that only he/she is only capable of doing for you because they know how you want things to be.
  
• the feeling is different if you had shared memories with the person, like growing up together or being in the same crew..
  
• when both of you are in the same crew, it is time-saving because you get to hang out with your friends and your special someone at the same time,plus you don't have to worry if your friends and your special one will get along or not.
  
• when you accepted him/her as your friend,you accepted everything about the person ,thus you are able to love him/her unconditionally.
  

cons:

• there's only one con to this -- when you're on top, there's no other way but to go down. it's hard to bring back the friendship as it was before the whole thing happened. different people have different attitudes as to how to handle the damaged relationship.
  

so what's my point in writing all these things? pretty simple, just an advice to those reading this and have been in a particular situation -- do not start anything that you cannot handle,because if you did, you'd be at least reducing the sad people in the world.